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Why do we tend to judge and criticise others? Because we have a certain stereotypical image of how things "should be", how things "should be done". We are constantly comparing: does other people's behaviour match my image? And if it doesn't, we are quick to judge by saying "wrong" (automatic rational reaction) or "bad" (automatic emotional reaction). When we criticise another person, we feel "superior" to them.

However, constructive criticism is only possible when you are a professional in the field. Otherwise, criticism is either a stereotype of what is good-bad from childhood or an adaptation to social stereotypes of what is right-wrong. A stereotype is a learned automatic behaviour without a sense of meaning.

If we want to live OUR life, to grow and develop, we have to try to free ourselves from the stereotype of judgement. The first step is to stop thinking badly of others. Not to judge, but to tell ourselves: "I don't understand this or that, but I accept that this attitude is possible". Of course, there are circumstances when it is necessary to be able to judge or support one side or the other, but if the situation is outside our sphere of influence, then it is best to remain impartial.

Breaking free from the stereotype of judgement is possible by adopting a state of emotional neutrality. This way of distancing oneself from prejudices, not reacting emotionally, not getting caught up in someone else's image and not starting to live the other person's life. The state of emotional neutrality changes the relationship with oneself and with the environment. There is more energy to act and create.